Okay, full disclosure, I don’t know that much about asexuality, but I would be intrigued about seeing how it is handled in Omega verse.
Also, I saw this ask first thing this morning and it made me incredibly sad for like half the day. Like, “stressful” feels like an understatement to me.
Matthew is literally stuck between one biological rock and another biological hard place. I mean, I figure it can’t be as miserable as its worded but imagine the first or second heat and Matthew just can’t and he’s being courted, and, poor kid, he’d be so upset and confused and just so goddamn anxious because I bet his situation wasn’t covered in those sex ed pamphlets.
Man, a story from the POV of Matthew’s alpha trying to navigate a relationship where (s)he’s respectful and understanding but also struggling to accept and be patient because Matthew’s struggling and they’re trying to set out the boundaries and rules of their relationship, compromising so Matthew doesn’t ever feel forced/”unnatural” and so that the alpha knows that it isn’t a lack of affection, just Matthew not being able to react.
Like, the pair of them knowing how an ideal pair should behave and be, and coming to terms with the fact that that is not them and they just have to find their own ideal. Never mind their families, never mind what they learned.
It is a very interesting idea, anon. Thank you for sharing it. You’ve given me something new to think about.
I’m just going to butt in and make this worse/take what’s already here up to eleven. :D
Back in 2011, Siggy did a census of the asexual community. (Anon, if you haven’t read it already, you should! Lots of interesting correlations, and Siggy did well at explaining things in a way non-stats people [like me] could understand.) 65% of asexual respondents were sex-repulsed, and only 1% actually said they enjoyed sex. Even though certain parts of the real world community *cough*AVEN*cough* are very pro-compromise, pro-“fuck your partner to make them happy,” that’s a pretty massive repulsion rate.
Plus there’s a chunk of the ace community that feels uncomfortable when we receive any kind of sexual attention. (And by “uncomfortable” I mean “dysphoric” and “do not want.”) It’s not everyone, but I keep finding more and more references to it over the last three months.
Given the stats at play, Omega!Matthew is probably sex-repulsed. Given that drugs and hormones tend to affect libidos, not orientation, he’s probably still going to be repulsed when he’s in heat. Just because I’m an asshole, let’s make him hate himself whenever people treat him like a sexual being.
Now you have:
- A partner who wants to fulfill their instincts (and human compassion) to help protect Matthew and care for him while he’s upset, even if it’s not a dubcon sex scenario, but who’s not ace and can’t help appreciating the sight/smell/sound of their omega in heat.
- Matthew, who’s been dealing with things well enough on his own thank you very much, hating his partner a little bit more every heat because of things neither of them can control. Even if he gives in to societal pressure and biological compulsions, he’s not going to full-heartedly enjoy it at the time and he’s going to hate himself when he sobers up.
It’s lose-lose, you’re welcome. :)